tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.comments2023-07-14T11:44:28.441+01:00Easy Tiger Parent Systemâ„¢Jennifer McLeodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18279843441826130517noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-39296845405362946602011-12-30T11:41:25.495+00:002011-12-30T11:41:25.495+00:00Children Don't See things the Way Adults Do
...Children Don't See things the Way Adults Do<br /><br /><br />Don't give up on your children! Even when the going gets tough. Find a way to communicate with your children, maybe write them a letter so that they know where you are at. It is not about reaching out to your partner or Ex to have a relationship with your children but rather reaching out to your children in the best way you know how to. Even if it is the other parent that is in the wrong, the fact that you are not in their life is something that children will hold against YOU! Why did you leave me mum/dad? Why didnt you help us when you knew that we were having an awful time with the parent that we live with? <br /><br /><br />No, children don't always see things the way adults do because they are .... children, and we shouldn't expect them to<br /><br /><br />Wishing peace to all parents and families out there and for a healthier and happier 2012<br /><br />JenniferJennifer McLeodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18279843441826130517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-75388923148609237982011-12-30T03:46:02.787+00:002011-12-30T03:46:02.787+00:00I am in the thick of this very conversation. I hav...I am in the thick of this very conversation. I have been separated from the kids mom (My wife) for two years. She had an affair with a man at her job and did everything she could to tear our marriage down. I will be balanced about whats going on here in my story. I had an affair 4 years prior to hers. I tried everything I knew to restore trust but every time we got into it about something She convicted me over and over of the affair. Finally, in Dec. of 2009 I called it quits and walked away from the marriage altogether. I had just lost my job to make matters worse. She moved her boyfriend in and was pregnant the following month. I learned that she had our 3 sons who were 15, 14 and 9 at the time calling her new boyfriend "dad". I stayed away from her because I knew her game was only to hurt. Several months after we left we went to court and the judge told her basically to stop playing games with the kids and to make visitation arrangements. So I began picking the children up and making up for lost time. I had been blessed with a well paying job and so life for me and the kids had gotten much better. I HAD EVEN BEFRIENDED HER NEW BOYFRIEND! Later the kids and I flew to Orlando and did the Disney thing.... without her. In fact life had just improved by leaps and bounds without her as far as me and the kids were concerned. The kids always wanted to hang out with me and be at 'dad's pad'. But she grew increasingly unhappy with the way things were going in my life. The kids didn't have a want for anything. I paid her child support and took care of the kids on top of that. The kids started telling me that their mother wouldn't talk to them and started calling them unthinkable names when they were at her place. I called her on it and she started playing her games by not letting me see the boys. I have resolved to cut off all connections with my children because in order for me to deal wit my kids would mean that I would fall underneath their mother's sick and twisted power when it comes to my kids. She thinks that it weakens me because she is doing this and to tell the truth I cry at night and beg the Lord for his help! But I must move on with my life and I pray everyday for the safety of our children. But I will never in no way beg her for our kids. No! She is sick in her mind. I have reached out to her as far as I can possibly reach. So the kids lose! She Wins! Get the confetti out out and start cheering sick minded women; You win! I will continue to pay child support and I will move on with my life!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-61779648832539734482011-02-02T13:39:25.092+00:002011-02-02T13:39:25.092+00:00I seldom leave comments on blog, but I have been t...I seldom leave comments on blog, but I have been to this post which was recommend by my friend, lots of valuable details, thanks again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-74513499274571329272011-01-17T03:34:34.174+00:002011-01-17T03:34:34.174+00:00Hi there,
I'm a 40 year old woman who finally...Hi there,<br /><br />I'm a 40 year old woman who finally took a stand against my mother who has manipulated me my whole life. I ended up hating my father and always took her side in every argument because she told me she had depression and anxiety if I didn't hear her out. Now, I realize that she was too much of a coward to say anything to him and made me her therapist my whole life. She was also lazy to try and work out her marriage issues by herself and too ashamed to talk to a professional therapist or her friends for that matter. I have finally cut ties because I realize she has no desire to stop her manipulation at the expense of our relationship. She once told me she had cancer to cause me to worry about her for 6 months. I found out later, that this was untrue. Five years ago, after I stopped talking to her for about 1 year regarding her constant manipulation of me against my father, I got into a car accident and broke my spine, ribs, and nose. She didn't call me for 3 months to see how I was doing. I believe it was her being passive aggressive. She told me she didn't know that I was near death after the car accident, as the reason for why she didn't call me. I have now stopped accepting her phone calls permanently. Now she has her friends stalking me at my home, and has her friends call me randomly. I keep telling her to stop, she promises to stop, but won't stop trying to contact me. I'm trying to find out if I could help a restraining order or move out of my home. This is so ridiculous, it's beyond imagination. <br /><br />-HelenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-35687575378508323962010-09-06T15:24:59.976+01:002010-09-06T15:24:59.976+01:00thank you all for your comments. please let others...thank you all for your comments. please let others know about this blog. also see my new website www.stepup-international.co.ukJennifer McLeodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18279843441826130517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-71128346466879591632010-09-06T13:40:21.569+01:002010-09-06T13:40:21.569+01:00Thank you, that was extremely valuable and interes...Thank you, that was extremely valuable and interesting...I will be back again to read more on this topic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-90452632458955641042010-08-22T23:30:30.961+01:002010-08-22T23:30:30.961+01:00Exchanging links would be great, except I don'...Exchanging links would be great, except I don't know who you areJennifer McLeodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18279843441826130517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-30215934628606885082010-08-22T06:04:17.889+01:002010-08-22T06:04:17.889+01:00I would like to exchange links with your site jenn...I would like to exchange links with your site jennifer-mcleod.blogspot.com<br />Is this possible?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-60648564535724219802010-08-13T20:21:13.668+01:002010-08-13T20:21:13.668+01:00Genial dispatch and this post helped me alot in my...Genial dispatch and this post helped me alot in my college assignement. Thank you on your information.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-30474173508120466162010-07-20T19:25:48.534+01:002010-07-20T19:25:48.534+01:00The right to freedom of speech we have been given ...The right to freedom of speech we have been given by the Constitution is supposed to be based on the right to talk freely about government and petition it without fear of being silenced or punished. The freedom was not meant to include the public insults and harassment that are done with the purpose of destroying someone's life. Unfortunately, right now, Cyberbullying is a big loophole; it needs to be classified as slander and libel. <br /><br />The problem is that the Internet is a safe haven for bullies because of the anonymity. There is not a more cowardly way to bully someone then from behind a curtain. But parents are the key. Parents need to get involved in helping solve the cyberbullying problem. If parents cared enough about their child being the bully or passing along the material as much as they care when their child is a victim, it would be a huge step forward. But then, of course, how do you know if your child is involved in cyberbullying? You need to monitor their Internet activity. Monitoring software like our PC Pandora records everything that happens on the PC. If your child is a victim, you will know; if they are a bully, you will know. Whatever the case may be with your child (victim or bully), you need to intervene. Check us out at http://pcpandora.com to see how you can be a part of the solution instead of a passive part of the problem.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-73113761629384403582010-07-13T19:16:46.456+01:002010-07-13T19:16:46.456+01:00The problem is that the Internet is a safe haven f...The problem is that the Internet is a safe haven for bullies because of the anonymity. There is not a more cowardly way to bully someone then from behind a curtain. But parents are the key. Parents need to get involved in helping solve the cyberbullying problem. If parents cared enough about their child being the bully or passing along the material as much as they care when their child is a victim, it would be a huge step forward. But then, of course, how do you know if your child is involved in cyberbullying? You need to monitor their Internet activity. Monitoring software like our PC Pandora records everything that happens on the PC. If your child is a victim, you will know; if they are a bully, you will know. Whatever the case may be with your child (victim or bully), you need to intervene. Check us out at http://pcpandora.com to see how you can be a part of the solution instead of a passive part of the problem.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-46346422786679870872009-01-21T00:29:00.000+00:002009-01-21T00:29:00.000+00:00this went on a woman's best years of her life--jus...this went on a woman's best years of her life--just like an old rag her own father said he'd been thinking of letting her out. what about their sick daughter kristin? WAS SHE ABUSED as well.MAY GOD HAVE MERCY.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-22654755264231036752008-11-21T13:30:00.000+00:002008-11-21T13:30:00.000+00:00Hi there,I am a stepmom involved in the whole mess...Hi there,<BR/>I am a stepmom involved in the whole mess of manipulation. My stepson's mother does not want my husband to have anything to do with his son. He took her to court when his son was 2 to get rights to see him, and he won. They have joint custody. The problem is, she says he has such bad anxiety about coming to our home. When he is here, though, he seems like he has a great time. I know she is just saying things to make my husband feel bad. Around the holidays it gets really difficult because my husband wants him to be here overnight for Christmas Eve and she refuses. The court order says they are suppose to "agree" on Holidays. He doesn't want to get his son all upset on Christmas, but he wants to see him too. He has never had him on Christmas Eve and he is 8 years old. When is enough, enough? Is there anything he can do to stop this cycle, short from going back to court. We really cannot afford a lawyer! <BR/>Thanks!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-42396432649575076152008-08-02T16:50:00.000+01:002008-08-02T16:50:00.000+01:00Likewise, I cannot shake the tragedy, the horror a...Likewise, I cannot shake the tragedy, the horror and the betrayal of this ordeal. Simply, I am unable to comprehend the hideous evil that lays beneath the surface of Elisabeth's father, the weakness of her mother which was exploited for evil and lastly, the betrayal of the authorities when they returned this run-away child to her father in l984. Elisabeth was betrayed on all levels...the human race betrayed her. I do wish that the photographers, paprazzi etc would leave her alone...I am afraid any book about her ordeal would turn into an "HOW TO" book for the next Josef Fritz wannabee. I hope Elisabeth can find some measure of peace...some happiness...some trust in the human race. I wish the best for her. BeckyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-12477468659331249632008-07-31T15:40:00.000+01:002008-07-31T15:40:00.000+01:00Jennifer, "Bravo" on your post! I agree wholehear...Jennifer, "Bravo" on your post! I agree wholeheartedly with your comment about how damaging it is to use innocent children as pawns in war games between divorced or separated parents. I plan to quote part of your comments on my blog www.manipulative-people.com and website. I'd like to suggest, however, that to say people do these things out of cowardice (I'm assuming you mean fear of revealing a true agenda openly) can be a dangerous presumption as well as a manipulative attempt in itself to goad the covert-aggressor into feeling a little shame (which, by the way would likely prove a fruitless exercise) or into more forthright behavior. We have become a society of undisciplined, self-centered fighters for whom getting what we want is much more important than who might get injured in the process. One could only hope that folks would experience a little squeamishness or cowardice when it comes to using our kids as pawns in covert wars.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17167129641973302036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-69250704094219469912008-05-19T16:21:00.000+01:002008-05-19T16:21:00.000+01:00I haven't been able to get this story off my mind-...I haven't been able to get this story off my mind----it is about the saddest ordeal, with layers of victims. <BR/><BR/>My heart goes out to this strong woman who raised her children under the most extreme deprivations and abuse. I also hurt for all the victims of abuse whose terrors are raked up by this horrific story.GARYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09455246776152860297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-13106369012728846442008-05-11T06:46:00.000+01:002008-05-11T06:46:00.000+01:00You said, "Let's hope" for the best for the family...You said, "Let's hope" for the best for the family. I agree. I wish them opportunity to be together and to learn to laugh and be content, and mostly to get a proper, pleasant religious education. I hope the grandmother and the "upstairs" three will enjoy supporting the "downstairs" part of the family.Thehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01754121534717574377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-62596186938291565582008-05-07T22:34:00.000+01:002008-05-07T22:34:00.000+01:00I can see you have been busy, posting lots of inte...I can see you have been busy, posting lots of interesting new stuff Jennifer - keep on Blogging!<BR/><BR/>Jim Connolly<BR/>The Ideas BlogAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5630617247127792791.post-55076266435759028582008-05-07T11:31:00.000+01:002008-05-07T11:31:00.000+01:00Wow, reading this article I have to admit its so t...Wow, reading this article I have to admit its so true the government need to think long and hard of the consequences that lies ahead of working parents because it't not always going to be like a bed of roses.<BR/><BR/>Some days there will be times when the parent can't get into work because the child/children are unwell or the school is closed for the vacations such as half term or teacher's training sessions.<BR/><BR/>The parent loses out on pay which affects the benefits and the wages the parent has to live on to pay for bills and basic essentials such as food etcdharmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07230434145200605530noreply@blogger.com