Connecting or Engaging With Your Children

So many parents are not able to “connect” or engage with their children as they are still holding onto old scripts (and learnt behaviour) from their own parents. I have let go of a lot of my old scripts as they no longer serve my purpose and I wanted a different experience for my children and to create different possibilities for them. I am not saying that it is an easy thing to do, however, it’s a choice thing, and once you make the DECISION to do something, the decision itself makes the task easier to manage or implement.


My two children now talk of having their own businesses and my eldest son is currently writing his training manual/book series. He’s 19.

There isn’t a right or wrong about people holding onto their old scripts. That said, by doing so, IT affects our children in ways that sometimes we just cant imagine.

Many people think that parenting programmes are for “bad parents” or people on the dole, however, the most senior of chief executives could well be having challenges bonding/engaging with their children. We’re all humans (I hope! ), which means that at different times in our lives we all mess up in one way or another. Life!

Our Easy Tiger Parents Programmes have a non-blaming focus that enables parents to get rid of Emotional Roadblocks™ that might be stopping them engaging or interacting with their children.

As part of our Easy Tiger Parent System™, we offer 1:1 Coaching or Easy Tiger Parents Programmes with groups

Contact us now to see how we can help you to throw out some of those OLD scripts which no longer serve you or meet your needs and that of your children.

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With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod

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Do You Love ME?

Do You Love ME?

This is the underlying and constant question that children and young people have running through their minds whether on a conscious or unconscious basis. We all have a need to be loved and children and young people are no exception to the rule.Most often than not, however, children and young people may not be aware of this driving need and may act in ways which test their parents’ love for them. Again, they are generally unaware of why they are doing what they are doing because it is an unconscious act governed by the need to be and to feel loved. Though these actions may test some parents’ patience or drive some parents to despair, the trick for the parents is to look behind the behaviour at what children or young people might be trying to tell you. For instance, examples of behaviour might range from minor incidences like some children bedwetting again, creating ‘weird and wonderful’ fantasies that might seem real to them, hyperactivity, to more serious situations like stealing, mixing with the wrong crowd that leads them astray, substance misuse, self harm or even worse, suicide (sadly and steadily on the increase amongst young people and is the second or third highest cause of death for young people). The behaviour is a form of communication to you that tells you that something is going on and again, children especially, and young people may not be able to put into words how they are feeling. They just need that affirmative ‘yes’ in words and actions from their parents.

Where young people are concerned, they have so many challenges going on at this crucial stage of development in their lives, that it is so easy for them to get distracted and perhaps do things that they wouldn't normally do in an attempt to 'find themselves' or 'find me'. It is also a time for them naturally to want to explore and strive for their independence from their parents. Whilst this is a natural part of their growth, this stage still needs to be managed, whereby parents give young people more freedom a little at a time depending on their ability to manage this new found freedom and the responsibilities that it entails. Give them too much freedom at first and it will be difficult to claw it back later on if and when things go wrong. Children and young people of all ages need boundaries, irrespective of their behaviour and them telling you that they are not ‘a kid’ anymore. An Ofsted report 2007 UK reveals that young people believe that teachers treat them like young adults too soon. So whilst they want the extra freedom, they don’t want or are unable to cope with too much of it and therefore the increased responsibilities that it brings.

Another important point about a young person’s need to know that he or she is loved is the natural need for them to see their parents demonstrate that they love them. It might appear that they don’t want to be hugged anymore as they get older, but this is generally a façade that they put on at this stage of their development. Providing you are not ignoring their wishes by hugging them and embarrassing them in front of their friends, (my eldest is 17 years old and he openly initiates and gives me a hug in front of his friends), then always show your children affection. This can be as simple as tapping/touching them on their shoulders, arms, head or back as you walk past them.Brian Tracy, a leading sales and personal development guru, sited an experiment called the Infant Death Syndrome where an experiment with newly born babies showed that half the babies in the experiment were not shown any form of affection and were just fed and changed when necessary. The other half of the babies in the experiment were also changed and fed, given extra attention, affection, hugged and played with. The difference in the development of the growth in the two sets of babies was so stark that the experiment had to be stopped, though too late, as the set of babies which didn’t receive the nurturing and affection, literally shriveled up and some of them actually died. A very potent example to illustrate the point above, as it is so easy to underestimate young people’s need for affection because of the contradictory behaviour that they portray.

If you watch Eastenders in the UK, one of the current storyline running is Lucy Beale running away from home. The episode Friday 02 May 2008 showed Stephen Beale telling Lucy that dad Ian and step mum Jane had almost forgotten about her to the extent where they were thinking of moving Stephen into Lucy’s room. The expression on Lucy’s face was one of obvious disappointment, even though she was the one that ran away.

So what do you do?

Give constant reassurance, praise, love, focused attention and affection and most importantly, LISTEN and give Lots of hugs.

This is not just about positive parenting or just being positive parents as this approach goes over and above that.

Have you been LiBERATED yet?

NEW LIFE! NEW FREEDOM! NEW YOU!

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Jennifer McLeod

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Creator of Easy Tiger Parents System(tm)
Creator of Born To Win! Programme for Young People(tm)
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Liberation is on its way!

Parents and young people liberation is here at last!

Doesnt that sound great?


I get really excited at the sound of those words, because that's exactly what i do for parents and young people.

More on this later, for now join me and let me know your comments and the new phase for parents and young people..

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NEW LIFE! NEW FREEDOM! NEW YOU!

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod

Born To Win! book series - Get your download Ebook at www.Lulu.com
Creator of Easy Tiger Parents System(tm)
Creator of Born To Win! Programme for Young People(tm)
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www.stepup-international.co.uk
+44 (0) 121 551 1668

Parents, if you were an animal.........

Parents

if you were an animal,

• what kind of an animal would you be?


• why?


• how does this play out in your life and with family members?


• how does this affect others/your children?


• what are the implications for your children and relationships?


• any other comment?

thanks for taking part in this mini survey

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
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http://www.stepup-international.co.uk/
+44 (0) 121 551 1668

Parents and Young People, have you been liberated yet?

Parents and Young People, have you been liberated yet?

I work with parents and young people from an emotional and psychological perspective, enabling them to get rid of Emotional Roadblocks(tm).If you are a parent or young person, have you been liberated yet?

NEW LIFE! NEW FREEDOM! NEW YOU!

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With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
info@jennifermcleod.co.uk
http://www.stepup-international.co.uk/
+44 (0) 121 551 1668