How Confident Are You?

How Confident are You?

It's amazing how many parents that we work with who share with us that they wish that they were more confident to support, manage and discipline their children. They have confidence interval where their self confidence supports them and other times it clearly fails them.

Self confidence building is not just for parents but for everyone to feel good about themselves. Not all of us know how to have confidence and some of us need support with confidence building, but that's ok, providing we ask for the help that we need.

Many parents are struggling without sufficient support, and in some cases it's about them learning to ask for help and also about them taking that 'risk' to ask for the help especially if they fear rejection.

Take the plunge towards building self confidence today. Generally things are not as bad as we fear they might be.

Good luck on your journey :-)

Have you been LiBERATED yet?

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod

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DON'T make NEW YEAR'S Resolutions

DON’T Make New Year’s Resolutions!

Did you achieve the New Year’s Resolutions that you promised yourself in 2007? What about 2006? 2005?

Or, how many of your friends, family or colleagues do you know that that set New Year’s Resolutions and actually achieved them? Not many, I’m sure.

The truth is, New Years Resolutions simply don’t work! They generally don’t work because people lack the real commitment needed to follow through.

SET GOALS instead!!

Setting a goal is far more definitive than having New Years Resolutions

My success formula for achieving any goal is:

• Be Specific about the goal (a house)


• Deadline when you want to achieve the goal (31 Dec 2012)


• Identify the Reasons you want to achieve the goal. What will achieving the goal give you that you don’t already have? (These could be tangible or intangible benefits). The more reasons you have for achieving the goal, the more likely it is that you will achieve that goal


• How will you achieve the goal? i.e. break the goal down into smaller, manageable chunks or sub-goals ( contact architect, identify location, visit estate agents, contact builders, survey property, save £………; pay deposit, etc)


• Identify deadlines for each of the above Sub-goal and tick each one off as you achieve it


• Identify Who can help you to achieve your goal. Chances are you know lots of people already around you who could possibly help you achieve your goal. Failing that, they may know others who could help you


• How will you know that you have achieved the goal? How will you Recognise your achievement? What will you see, hear, feel, smell, touch? What is the last thing that you would do or the last step you would make that tells you that you have achieved your goal? Fast forward and take yourself into the future and see, sense or imagine yourself achieving that goal


• The more Vivid your Imagination and the more Emotion you attach to the goal, the likelihood it is that you will achieve your goal.


• How might you achieving your goal affect other people? (positive or negative outcomes)


• Do you still want to achieve your goal?


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  Once you have decided to go ahead with your goal, then commit 100% to achieving it. TAKE ACTION today!
  
  Good luck!
  ‘Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity!’
  
  Contact me for further clarification on achieving your goals or to book a Coaching Programme to make 2008 the year for you! Contact me now on 0121 551 1668 or info@PositiveInspirationS.co.uk
  
  PS: Remember, failing to plan your life is planning to fail!
  PPS: Make 2008 the year to remember and that you did achieve something! Contact me now!
  
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  February 2008
  
  Thursday 28 February 2008
  Create Financial Abundance
  
  2 ½ hour Evening Session to help you get 2008 off to a great start.
  
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  April 2008
  
  Wednesday 9 April 2008 (Evening)
  Step Up! To your Confidence
  
  Wednesday 30 April 2008
  Easy Tiger™ Parent Coaching Workshop
  
• May 2008
  
  Thursday 22 May 2008
  The Psychology of Self Harm and Behaviour
  
  
  June 2008
  
  Friday 27 June 08
  Live Your Ultimate Life Vision Today!
  
  July 2008
  
  Wednesday 16 July 2008
  It’s Ok To Be A Parent!
  
  September 2008
  
  Thursday 18 September 2008 (Evening)
  Create Financial Abundance
  
  October 2008
  
  Tuesday 14 October 2008 – Wednesday 15 October 2008
  Introduction to Coaching for Managers
  
  December 2008
  
  Tuesday 02 December 2008
  Step Up! to Leadership
  
  March 2009
  
  Sat/Sun 21 – 22 March 2009
  Live Your Ultimate Life Vision Today!
  
  
  June 2009
  
  Sat/Sun 27 – 28 June 2009
  Shape Your Destiny
  
  For further information or to book your place on any of the above Events, contact me now, Jennifer McLeod on +44 (0)121 551 1668 or email info@PositiveInspirationS.co.uk
  

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
info@PositiveInspirationS.co.uk

I don't have the confidence to manage my children!

I dont know about you but I have had some shaky times in the past when my confidence had let me down and especially at times when I had been stressed. It seems that it was especially at these times when the children 'must have decided' that it's 'let's play up just for mummy' time- yeaaaahhhh!!!!!!

I have two very confident boys who at times in the past, it felt like they were much stronger than I was, especially at times before, during and after my divorce. Ghastly time!!!!!!!!!!!!!

However, there may be less serious occasions in your life than a divorce or separation when you might have felt your confidence ebb away for whatever reason and it just continued on a downward spiral. Children instinctly react to changes whether these are implicit or explicit changes, as children tend to be a lot more perceptive and intuitive than perhaps adults may think or accept. My ex-husband and I didn't argue in front of our children even when things were bad just prior to the divorce, however, the fact that things were not going well between us had it's obvious affects on the children.

When children sense that something is not right, they start to play up, or act out, perhaps more as a way of protecting themselves and especially if they don't understand what it is that they are experiencing or sensing. The worst thing that a parent can do when a child asks 'What's wrong mum?' or 'What's wrong dad?', is to say 'nothing is wrong' or in effect lie to the child. If the 'lying' continues, albeit the parents good intentions of seeming to protect their child, the child will begin to internalise the 'nothing is wrong' as 'oh, maybe there's something wrong with me then! maybe I didn't sense that at all, and because mum or dad says that there is nothing wrong, it must be true!' The knock on effect of this is that children experiencing this situation are likely to grow up not trusting themselves or their instincts, which potentially could lead to them becoming introverts, or even abused in adult life.

Clearly, children don't need to know every single detail of what is wrong, and indeed the amount of information given needs to be tailored according to the child's age. However, acknowledging that they are right in some way will help your children immensely. When I first discovered that this was a better way to deal with questions that I would much rather not answer, I began by saying something like, 'I have quite a lot on my mind right now. Bear with me.'

If our confidence is letting us down, it is likely that we will go into some kind of insecurity mode which means that in order to overcome our own sense of feeling insecure, maybe inadequate, or unworthy, potentially we may then instinctively take this out on the children to compensate for what is missing in us. Taking it out on the children can happen in so many different minor and major ways, for instance, shouting at the children, slapping them, sending them to their room for something naughty that we 'perceive' that they have done or worse, physically harming them in a serious way.

The greatest gift that you can give to yourself at times like these is to acknowledge that your confidence is perhaps not as you would want it to be and to make the decision to do something about it. And then TAKE ACTION to change it! Again, the children will also benefit greatly in the positive changes in you.

Take Control of YOur Life Today


With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
www.PositiveInspirationS.co.uk Tel: +44 (0)845 056 3840

Single Parents and Lone Parents

The government has been pretty forthright lately in its determination to get lone parents back to work as a way of reducing the unemployment figures. I think it is fantastic that lone parents get all the support that they can get to start working or go back to work at the time that is just right for them, isn't it? However, that is unlikely to be the case in reality.

There are so many things to consider in terms of getting lone parents to work, that i wonder if the government has fully thought through lone parents needs.

As a lone parent myself with two children, I know how challenging it can be to take on all the parenting responsibilities, or share some if you have a supportive ex-partner. Some lone parents may not have the support network to help with childcare outside of normal office hours or indeed during office hours; they may not be able to afford nursery fees; returning to work may undoubtedly bring about fears of having some of their benefits being taken off them and not being replaced by sufficient income from their new job, with no immediate way of filling that financial gap. In addition, there are those lone parents who may not have worked for a long period of time, which means that they may have lost a lot of confidence and the working world or business world may appear too overwhelming for them. They may need re-skilling in meaningful career paths and not just a piecemeal attempt to get them in the lowest possible level job at the lowest possible pay in the quickest possible time just as a quick fix or a 'tick box' mentality to prove that unemployment is on the decrease!

Other than very important practical things to consider in getting lone parents back to work, there are emotional and psychological challenges that need to be taken into consideration.

Who will deal with the emotional and psychological challenges that lone parents might be facing when returning to work or entering the workplace for the first time. There may be feelings of guilt, insecurity, fear, anxiety, low self esteem or a lone parent may be someone who is harming themselves on a regular basis. Additionally, what about the emotional and psychological baggage that people bring with them from childhood that are amplified in adulthood? Who will help some lone parents to get rid of some of these potentially detrimential baggage and Emotional Roadblocks(tm) that could be stopping them working in the first place or not being as an effective parent as they would like to be?

And what about possible parenting challenges with either young children or teenagers? If these challenges are not dealt with, they could also affect the lone parents and single parents ability to perform well in their job and potentially affect team morale.

Some people need more support than others to move on in their lives. Just looking at one aspect of a person's life, such as employment/unemployment is not the most useful way to help people move on in life.

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
www.PositiveInspirationS.co.uk