DON'T make NEW YEAR'S Resolutions

DON’T Make New Year’s Resolutions!

Did you achieve the New Year’s Resolutions that you promised yourself in 2007? What about 2006? 2005?

Or, how many of your friends, family or colleagues do you know that that set New Year’s Resolutions and actually achieved them? Not many, I’m sure.

The truth is, New Years Resolutions simply don’t work! They generally don’t work because people lack the real commitment needed to follow through.

SET GOALS instead!!

Setting a goal is far more definitive than having New Years Resolutions

My success formula for achieving any goal is:

• Be Specific about the goal (a house)


• Deadline when you want to achieve the goal (31 Dec 2012)


• Identify the Reasons you want to achieve the goal. What will achieving the goal give you that you don’t already have? (These could be tangible or intangible benefits). The more reasons you have for achieving the goal, the more likely it is that you will achieve that goal


• How will you achieve the goal? i.e. break the goal down into smaller, manageable chunks or sub-goals ( contact architect, identify location, visit estate agents, contact builders, survey property, save £………; pay deposit, etc)


• Identify deadlines for each of the above Sub-goal and tick each one off as you achieve it


• Identify Who can help you to achieve your goal. Chances are you know lots of people already around you who could possibly help you achieve your goal. Failing that, they may know others who could help you


• How will you know that you have achieved the goal? How will you Recognise your achievement? What will you see, hear, feel, smell, touch? What is the last thing that you would do or the last step you would make that tells you that you have achieved your goal? Fast forward and take yourself into the future and see, sense or imagine yourself achieving that goal


• The more Vivid your Imagination and the more Emotion you attach to the goal, the likelihood it is that you will achieve your goal.


• How might you achieving your goal affect other people? (positive or negative outcomes)


• Do you still want to achieve your goal?


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  Once you have decided to go ahead with your goal, then commit 100% to achieving it. TAKE ACTION today!
  
  Good luck!
  ‘Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity!’
  
  Contact me for further clarification on achieving your goals or to book a Coaching Programme to make 2008 the year for you! Contact me now on 0121 551 1668 or info@PositiveInspirationS.co.uk
  
  PS: Remember, failing to plan your life is planning to fail!
  PPS: Make 2008 the year to remember and that you did achieve something! Contact me now!
  
  CALENDAR of Events 2008 – 2009
  
  February 2008
  
  Thursday 28 February 2008
  Create Financial Abundance
  
  2 ½ hour Evening Session to help you get 2008 off to a great start.
  
  Once I had changed my values and created a wealth consciousness, things just started to get better and better for me. Start to create your wealth consciousness and financial abundance from today. If I can do it, you can!
  
  Investment: Only £45
  Time: 7.00 – 9.30pm
  Venue: Birmingham
  
  April 2008
  
  Wednesday 9 April 2008 (Evening)
  Step Up! To your Confidence
  
  Wednesday 30 April 2008
  Easy Tiger™ Parent Coaching Workshop
  
• May 2008
  
  Thursday 22 May 2008
  The Psychology of Self Harm and Behaviour
  
  
  June 2008
  
  Friday 27 June 08
  Live Your Ultimate Life Vision Today!
  
  July 2008
  
  Wednesday 16 July 2008
  It’s Ok To Be A Parent!
  
  September 2008
  
  Thursday 18 September 2008 (Evening)
  Create Financial Abundance
  
  October 2008
  
  Tuesday 14 October 2008 – Wednesday 15 October 2008
  Introduction to Coaching for Managers
  
  December 2008
  
  Tuesday 02 December 2008
  Step Up! to Leadership
  
  March 2009
  
  Sat/Sun 21 – 22 March 2009
  Live Your Ultimate Life Vision Today!
  
  
  June 2009
  
  Sat/Sun 27 – 28 June 2009
  Shape Your Destiny
  
  For further information or to book your place on any of the above Events, contact me now, Jennifer McLeod on +44 (0)121 551 1668 or email info@PositiveInspirationS.co.uk
  

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
info@PositiveInspirationS.co.uk

Wife Swop - The Effects on the Children

I have to say that Wife Swop is a programme that previously I didn't think deserved the time of day watching, however, my children happened to be watching it one day, not something that they normally watch, and I decided to join them, more because I wanted to spend that time just chilling out with them.

As I got into the programme, I started watching it with more curiosity and from a different, more observational perspective because of my role of working with parents and young people. My initial thought was why on earth would someone do something like that? What are people's motives for going through a process like Wife Swop , especially when they have objections to the changes and new house rules that are created as part of the process?

Generally, from the few shows that I have seen so far, there seems to be positive changes at the end of the process for both sets of families in different ways, if for no other reason, than to have more appreciation for their own real families afterwards and an insight into other people's worlds.

Examples of effects of the Wife Swop programme on the children that I have observed (given that I haven't seen that many episodes) include:

1. the episode where a wife and mother of four girls and one boy had learnt at the end of the Swop experience to let her 21 year old son take more responsibility for looking after his dog and himself, which includes getting himself out of bed. After all, he was 21 and needed to have some sense of responsibility and accountability for his own actions, learning that it was his responsibility to deal with consequences of his actions. He also had the added privilege of eating his dinner first, alongside his dad, before his mum and his four younger sisters could eat. Unfortunately, this was his mum's doing and not his dad's. I guess the knock on effect of his upbringing now is that he will be expecting his partner to always be at his beck and call because that's all he has ever been used to. His mum wanted it this way for her whole family, including her husband, because this made her feel needed!


2. Unfortunately, his sisters have been brought up to accept that it was OK for men to eat first and that they had left overs. In addition, they also believe that their role is to serve men, including rolling their cigars etc - basically be at their beck and call, and still have a job outside of the home. I don't know how many of these four girls will be strong enough and confident enough when they are older to stop her partner using her like a doormat or indeed prevent her partner abusing her in any other way, such as domestic violence. What I do know is that their mother's unhealthy neediness and insecurities has given them all alot of 'stuff' to undo and get rid of if they are to lead a healthy, positive life.


3. Another example of the effects of Wife Swop on children is the episode when family 'A' Swopped with family 'B'. Family 'A' was made up of parents who are both Councillors and three children and family 'B' was made up of parents (one of whom was a step-parent) and I think three children.


4. In family 'A', there was constant activity around the local government councillor's role, which also involved one of the daughters as well. The phone was constantly on the go and the ethos was that people 'out there' need us, so be patient and accept that we need to drop everything that we are doing to attend to their needs whenever they call. This meant that the children, all in their teens, didn't have much time with their parents, as even meal times was interrupted by phone calls.


5. In family 'B', the mother's eldest son of fifteen years, was having difficulty getting on with his step-dad. This meant that he was out often, getting into trouble with the police and hanging out with the wrong crowd. His behaviour was clearly affecting the whole family, however, his step-dad didn't seem to take much responsibility for some of his own actions either.


6. The positive outcomes for family 'A' and 'B' was that both sets of children were better off as a result of the Swop experience. The children in family 'A' had more time with their parents and the phone was switched off at a certain time in the evening. The eldest son in family 'B' had developed increased confidence because the 'Swop mum' had booked him a session in a recording studio because of his love for music.

As parents we need to become aware of what we are doing to and for ourselves as well as how our own behaviours affect our children. It takes courage to put up our hand and admit that some things in our lives are not working and that they need to be changed and we are the ones to make the changes happen.

It is possible and it can be done and I have done for myself and for the benefit of my children.

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
www.PositiveInspirationS.co.uk

Enterprising Young People

I had the pleasure of being asked to be on the Judging Panel of the Young Enterprise Strategic level Awards at Tally Ho Police Training Headquarters last week.

This is an organisation that offers Young People the opportunity to have a real life and first hand experience of setting up and running a real business whilst still at school. These companies then compete with each other on a local, regional and national level for the best company Award.

I was very impressed and surprised at the quality, level of understanding and entrepreneurship of ALL the Young People who took part in the competition.

Things have changed since my days at school and some Young People today are given fantastic opportunities to have'first hand' experiences of running a business. The Young People must liquidate and close the business before they leave school. What I would like to see is an extension of this support and guidance after Young People leave school for any Young Person who still wishes to become an entrepreneur in their own right or those wishing to develop the business that they started at school.

I happily contributed a complementary copy of my book Born To Win! to the overall winner at the Strategic Level Awards. If they use the book, it will definitely help them with their mindsets for future success in their businesses or in their lives generally. Their product is a fantastic one and I certainly would like to see them continue with the company when they leave school. It is a product that is in a niche market within the education industry. A well deserved winner!

Absolutely Amaaaazing!!!!

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
www.PositiveInspirationS.co.uk

Breakthrough Your Own Emotional Roadblocks(tm)

This is me with the arrow in my throat pushing it against the rock in Spain in April ready to break the arrow with my throat!

I have been having one breakthrough after another over the last few years as a way of helping me to get rid of my childhood conditionings and limiting, negative beliefs which have really held me back in my life and literally ran my life. Quite some years ago I felt and knew somehow that I was meant to be successful, however, knew that it wouldn't happen in my then emotional state and fear mode.

I had this urgency to get my regular 'fix' of counselling and do anything, like reading self help books, watch Oprah Winfrey, watch self development videos, to help push me through my pain barriers and negative emotional mindset and conditioning.

My view is that different therapies and development tools work for different people and at different times in their lives. Over the years I would test myself and my growth in different ways, always with a view to moving myself further along my path to having the winning success that I deserve. Self development is one long everlasting journey to having a fulfilling and meaningful life and is definitely not a destination.

My quote sums this up brilliantly: 'Get Yourself Out Of Your Own Way So the REAL YOU can get Going'

One example of how I test myself and keep pushing myself on my journey of freedom, self development and growth and to get out of my own way, is......by breaking an ARROW with my throat! Now my children think that I am mad, even when I explain the concept behind the exercise and what it symbolises. The arrow break itself is a symbol of a breakthrough in any aspect of your life. It is definitely not about brute strength but inner strength, commitment to yourself and giving 100% to the activity and therefore a symbol of 100% commitment to anything else you want to do and achieve in your life.


With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
www.PositiveInspirationS.co.uk