How many dormant ‘lizards’ do you have lying around?

How many dormant ‘lizards’ do you have lying around?

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting the same results” Einstein

Too often we allow our fears to hold us back believing them to be real and unchangeable. Most often than not, they are really nothing at all like we imagined them to be.

The following example of my eldest son and his friend illustrates this point:

One night whilst on holiday abroad at Easter, my eldest son and his friend believed they spotted a lizard near the hotel. That night they were playing ‘macho’ boys pretending not to be scared, though it was evident that they were. The next morning they went back to check if the lizard was still there. To their surprise it was not a lizard at all, but…… a piece of a branch. There was obvious relief and excitement when they discovered that the ‘lizard’ was not a lizard at all. Had they not gone back to check, they probably would have lived the rest of their lives believing that Spain was a scary place to visit as it had ‘lizards.’

So let me ask you: How many dormant ‘lizards’ do you have lying around? Go back and check your fears again. How real are they now? Do they even look anything like the ‘lizards’ you imagined them to be?

Quick TIP:
For a reality check and to release your ‘lizards’: write down your ‘lizards’ (situation/fear) on a piece of paper and then ask yourself the following:

· How real is this ‘lizard’?
· What else could this ‘lizard’ mean?
· How much longer will I allow this ‘lizard’ to control my actions, my life?
· Is this ‘lizard’ worthy of me?
· What if it were ok to let go of this ‘lizard’ now?

Allow yourself to let go of your ‘lizards’ today. Or will you allow them to cancel the rest of your life?

If you are a parent, on a psychological level, your children pick up on the ‘lizards’ that you are holding onto. Generally they will repeat these same patterns if you continue to hold onto them. Are you happy with your ‘lizards’? Do you really want to hold onto them? Are you happy to transfer them to your children?

(Of course if you really do have giant ‘alligators’ then you need to seek help to get rid of them. Take that action today.)

Good luck and let me know how you got on.

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Andrew Johnston beat the bullies

• Andrew Johnston beat the bullies!
  By Jennifer McLeod, June 2008
  
  I applaud Andrew Johnston, 13 year old contestant on ‘Britain’s Got Talent 2008 Show’, for having the courage to admit to 12 million people across the nation that he was being bullied because of the love of his passion……..singing opera.
  
  I want to let Andrew Johnston know that it is absolutely ok for him to cry when he didn’t win the coveted prize of appearing on the Royal Variety Show, BUT he won the nation’s heart!

• He is a winner because of his courage!
• He is a winner because he stood up to the bullies!
• He is a winner because he has the most superb natural voice for his age! (and as singing was my childhood ambition I would have loved to have had his voice when I was his age).
• He is a winner because he showed not only the judges, but especially the bullies, what he is really made of!
• He is a winner because he gained great confidence and height in just a matter of weeks
• He is a winner because HE CAN!!
  
  All respect to Andrew’s mum who stood by him and continued to support and nurture him throughout a time in their lives which must of been particularly difficult when he was being bullied for his passion.
  
  “When you follow your heart’s desires and do that one thing that’s been niggling away inside you, it’s likely to be that one thing that will make your heart sing.”
  Jennifer McLeod © 2006
  
  Young people are bullied for all kinds of reasons, which includes being different. I was privileged to be crewing with Tony Robbins in October 2006 when a 14 year old teenager, Laura, shared with an audience of 13,000 that she had attempted suicide 5 times because she was excluded from all groups at school for being different……… …why?…she liked rock music!! Tony Robbins had Laura rocking on stage to her favourite rock music and she had 13 thousand adults applauding and rocking with her. She truly rocked! And was a changed young lady by the time she left that seminar. Laura was able to appreciate that it was truly ok to be different and that it was people who are different that are shaping the world, movers and shakers and having an impact on other people’s lives. You only need to think about people like Nelson Mandela, Hitler, Mother Teresa and the Tallest Man in the World
  
  Another group of young people and teenagers being bullied at school are very bright, intelligent boys who then pretend that they don’t have that brilliance just to fit in with their peers. Let’s teach the other young people to look at and accept their own brilliance with the strong message that there is no need to be frightened of their brilliance!
  
  “When you go for what you really want in life, you are helping people more than you realise.”
  Jennifer McLeod © 2006
  
  Bullying is one of the topics that I cover with young people as a part of my Born To Win! Programme for Young People. The Programme helps young people and teenagers to discuss the negative messages that they are getting from society at large and from their own home or school environments, and how they can replace the negative messages with more empowering beliefs for themselves, to create the life they want as apposed to the life that they fall into.
  
  
  “I didn't belong as a kid, and that always bothered me. If only I'd known that one day my differentness would be an asset, then my early life would have been much easier”
  Bette Midler
  
  What can we do as adults and parents to help young people and teenagers be more accepting of others? This for me, starts with adults and parents! How much are we accepting of others including young people and teenagers and how much do we accept ourselves? We only need to look at newspaper articles or listen to the news to see how much adults do not like people who are different and how we can make people’s lives hell because of their differences!
  
  The Independent reports that more and more adults in the UK are afraid of young people and teenagers, however, labelling teenagers as ‘yobs’ or ‘tyrants’ does nothing to alleviate this. It’s only a minority of teenagers that are violent or hurt other people.
  
  “Children always know more than they can put into words: that distinguishes them from us adults, who usually put into words so much than we know.”
  J.Lusseyran
  
  Young people and teenagers are given so much stick in today’s society that it’s any wonder that any of them survive the stereotypes and assumptions as a generation with healthy mindsets. With so much negative press aimed at young people, it can be difficult to encourage young people to be confident in themselves.
  
  The judges on ‘Britain’s Got Talent Show’, Simon Cowell, Amanda Holden?, Piers Morgan, did a great job (in the main), of boosting young people and teenagers courage, confidence, and self esteem with their constructive comments (in the main). Kate from Kate and Gin Act leaves the Show a changed person from the very shy nervous person to being able to step outside of her comfort zone and step up to the challenge of being on stage in front of thousands of people.
  
  Numerous young people from 8 years old upwards entered the Finals, showing adults what they really can do, working and fighting hard to get that coveted prize and place in the Royal Variety Show. From their absolutely brilliant performances, it was inevitable that at least one young person would be in the top 3 and were favourites to win, and sure enough, two of them were: George Sampson (the winner), Andrew Johnston (third place and a winner in his own right) and Signature (adults – runner up).
  
  The semi-finals of ‘Britain’s Got Talent’ was dominated by young people and teenagers, including:
  
• The Cheeky Monkeys – aged 8 & 9
• Andrew Johnston - Opera
• Nemesis – Street Dance Group who trained and practiced at any available opportunity after work and any available space they could call their own, even if it meant practicing at a bus stop/shelter instead of dance studio with mirrors. Sheer will power and determination, and that’s what I really like about this group, apart from the fact that they are great dancers.
• George Sampson – singing in the rain ‘Mr Determination’
• Faryl Smith – where did she get that voice? A very ‘mature’ 12 year old and indeed very special
• Escala – fantastic talent and entertaining, string quartet
• Kate and Gin – very unique Act and Kate’s ability to communicate with Gin, the dog, is out of this world!
• Andrew Muir – plumber from Scotland and lot more besides!
  
  George Sampson won because of his sheer fighting spirit and determination to win and continue in his self belief to prove to the judges that they were wrong about him last year. That said, he is also a very talented teenager who was busking on streets in UK, before he auditioned for the ‘Britain’s Got Talent’ Show
  
  This is the first time for years that I have watched so much television, but it was worth it, watching children, young people and teenagers excel in the way that they did.
  
  I do not normally watch the Royal Variety Show, but this year I will make an exception and it will be one not to be missed!
  
  These young people and teenagers were all winners and clearly Born To Win!
  
  If you need any clarification or support on any of the serious matters of bullying or supporting teenagers and young people, contact me, Jennifer McLeod on youngpeople@jennifermcleod.co.uk
  
  © Jennifer McLeod 2008

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Parents of yobs face court threat

Parents of yobs face court threat

pa.press.net - 01.06.2008 06:15 FROM MSN NEWS

Here's an article that I got from MSN News today, hot off the press. See what you think.

Parents who fail to stop their children drinking in public face court action in a new drive by ministers to get a grip on drunken youths marauding the streets.
The move will be unveiled as part of a raft of measures designed to curb binge-drinking among teenagers and children as young as 10.

Youths who regularly drink alcohol in public will be committing an offence under new legislation.
Police will also be handed tougher powers to disperse gangs of youngsters congregating in the street and other popular hangouts like parks and bus shelters.

The cross-Whitehall drive comes amid heightened concern among voters about anti-social behaviour and alcohol abuse among younger people.

It will see teenagers persistently possessing alcohol in public subjected to anti-social behaviour orders (Asbos) and acceptable behaviour contracts.

Their parents will be hit by similar orders and contracts - including the requirement to attend parenting courses - if they fail to get their children to "change their ways". Ultimately, they could be prosecuted.

Home Secretary Jacqui Smith said professionals would be called in where parents were unable to handle their offspring.
"Groups of under-18s drinking in public are an all too familiar sight," she said.
"This type of drinking increases youth anti-social behaviour and crime, puts young people in vulnerable situations and I want to put a stop to it."



What do I think?

Me, I think this is just another way of the government driving another wedge between parents and young people, teenagers and applying even more pressure to parents and their teens than perhaps already exists, because the government fails to prevent shopkeepers from selling alcohol to young people. The question to ask, is how did the teenagers get the drink in the first place?

Worst still, the police will be given even more powers to DISPERSE young people on if they congregate in a group in PARKS, STREETS OR BUS SHELTERS!

This for me is just another example of the government and the police heightening the problem and stereotypes about young people. If young people and teenagers can't meet as a normal group in the PARK, where else can they meet!!???? The young people are referred to in the article above as 'yobs' and 'gangs'. Is it any wonder why more and more adults are needlessly fearful of teenagers when we are constantly bombarded with such negative language and images of young people??!!

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Parents, do you have the teenagers you deserve?

Parents, do you have the teenagers you deserve?

Reading Penny Palmano's book 'Yes Please. Whatever!, she suggests that we get the teenagers we deserve:

"(Teenage) behaviour is a barometer of how we dealt with them as children and how we deal with them now. So always remember, we only get the teenagers we deserve."

Tell me what you think about the above statement. What are your thoughts?

What is your teenager like? Are they much different from the kind of teeenager that you thought (expect?) that they would be?

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Working with Young People

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  Step Up! International Ltd
  
  Born To Win! Programme For Young People
  
  We help Young People to create the life they want as apposed to the life that they fall into.
  
  You know how some young people find it difficult to believe in themselves today or to ignore peer pressure? Which sometimes makes it difficult for them to do the right thing, concentrate on their education or even stay out of trouble? Well, we help young people to have the SELF BELIEF to create the life they want as apposed to the life that they fall into, which means that they can take action today to make it happen!
  
  “You have within you an inner guidance that always knows what you need to do. Trusting this inner guidance will set you free and help you to move the obstacles that you once considered to be mountains.”
  Jennifer McLeod © 2005
  
  Vision Statement
  
  Our vision is to make a difference in taking Parents and Young People to their highest levels of conscious awareness.
  
  Mission Statement
  
  Step Up! International Ltd is committed to providing the best possible quality and highest possible quantity of service in the best possible spirit to all our clients.
  
  We strive to deliver our services with the passion necessary to take parents and young people to their highest levels of being ‘there’. ‘There’ being where our clients are able to be or want to be on their journey of their own personal and professional development and fulfilment.
  
  We work with clients who are willing to learn and grow and who want the best for their team members.
  
  We work from an ethical standpoint, ensuring the greatest possible level of integrity in everything that we do.
  
  We work within an holistic framework, developing ourselves and our clients from a mental, emotional, spiritual and physical perspective, ensuring our clients’ true growth and success.
  
  “Set yourself up to WIN in life.”
  Jennifer McLeod © 2006

Who Is Our Born To Win! Programme For?

Our Born To Win! Programme is for ANY Young Person who:

Is from age 14 -19 years

Is in school or any other educational establishments and existing formal structures and frameworks

Is out of school and is being supported by other agencies such as Referral Units

Is part of the N.E.A.T. (Neither in Education And Training) programme and processes

Is ambitious

Has lost all self belief

Has little or no confidence and low self esteem

On the borderline of achievement and non-achievement

Are throwing their life away just to fit in with their peer group

Whose home life is affecting their studies and the learning environment

Have taken on too much and are struggling to fit it all in

Have potential but are not performing to their ability

Habitually Self harm

Have low aspirations

Believe that they could not get anything else other than the lowest paid job

Are feeling guilty, afraid, angry, or generally not feeling that they are good enough

Is a Teenage parent or parent-to-be

Just wants someone to believe in them!

Is doing well and want to do even better!

Who wants to move from good to great to excellent!

Wants to ensure they achieve the exam grades that they need

How Do We Do That?

We have Solutions for Young People as part of our Born To Win! Programmes ranging from:

• Workshops
• 1:1 Coaching
• Modular accredited coaching programmes for smaller groups of young people needing more intensive work or on a 1:1 basis
• Solutions for Teenage Parents and Teenage Parents To Be
  
  Benefits Of Young People Using Our Service includes:
  
  
• Our Young People’s Solutions focuses on the young person as a whole person and not just on any particular one aspect, e.g. academic achievement
• Our solutions pay for themselves!
• Have someone else believe in them
• Our reputation is second to none!
• We are independent and impartial from parents, educational establishments or other agencies.
• Our Unique, highly successful Easy Tiger™ Parenting Models for young people, together with our 21 Day Parent Coaching Model
• Opportunity to share with others and build support networks
• After Service support systems and structures
• New Life! New Freedom! New You!
  
  “Get Yourself out of the way so the REAL YOU can get going.”
  Jennifer McLeod © 2005
  
  
  Benefits To Educational Establishments and Other Agencies working with us, includes:
  
  
• Getting the right result for the young person
• Helping you to achieve your targets
• Ease your frustration in supporting the young person of having their breakthroughs
• Help to keep the young person within your existing framework, structures and programmes
• Inspire and enable the young person to have self belief
• Higher achievements and attainments for the young person and your organization
• Our independent and impartial approach
• Our ability to connect with young people.
  
  
  Testimonials
  
  Our successful Born To Win! Programme has helped Young People in different ways to have their breakthroughs and take control of their life. Don’t just take our word for it,
  here’s what some young people and others have to say about our services:
  
  ‘This is the best Workshop we’ve had’
  Birmingham University Student
  
  It was useful to understand our goals broken down and the steps needed for us to progress forward, for ourselves and no one else.
  Michaela, Halesowen College Student
  
  I really enjoyed the Workshop; it really boosted my self confidence and made me realise there are so many opportunities out there for me.
  Rufaro, Halesowen College Student
  
  The Workshop opened our minds about what we can achieve not just for our families, but mostly today, I learnt that it was important for me to achieve for myself.
  La Tanya Mais, Halesowen College Student
  
  The sessions provided a rare opportunity for students to think broadly about what it means to ‘create their own success’. While all 8 tools were essential in helping students realise this phrase, I felt that the breakdown of the Life Action Plan and the Success Mindset Principles™ were very practical exercises that showed students how to pull apart and understand their aspirations and life choices. It also helped students learn from previous accomplishments, which I find an amazingly useful tool in my own life. Your workshops reminded students (and myself to be honest) that the onus is upon the individual to create the future they’d like to have. However, it also showed the importance of identifying available support and making full use of it.
  Rashidah Andrews, Training Consultant, Halesowen College
  
  Jennifer’s Talk tonight has helped to confirm and clarify my vision. It has pushed me to finish writing my plan (or else it will only remain a dream!). Tonight was a BLESSING J
  Nadine Grant, Women of Destiny
  
  ‘Can we do this again Miss?’
  Year 8 Pupil, Castle Vale School
  
  ‘From today, I will not to let anyone put me down’
  ‘I will value each opportunity I receive’
  ‘I am starting to think about how I can do what I want instead of how I can’t’
  ‘Start thinking about how I can do what I want instead of how I can’t’
  ‘How to break down the problem of getting a job into manageable chunks’
  City College Students
  
  ‘The Workshop to help young girls to achieve their dreams was very inspirational. The majority of the 90 girls who took part were really interested in finding out how to reach their goals and benefited not only from the stepped approach from the fact that they were told they could achieve whatever they put their mind to.
  
  The girls were actively involved in both the Talk and Workshops and enjoyed making their dream-boards as it gave them a chance to reflect on their future (both long and short term) which they do not really get time for in the busy life of school.
  
  I would definitely recommend the workshops to other schools as it inspired both students and staff to give things a go and really believe that they can reach their goal and I would definitely have you back again.’
  Louise Maher, PSHE Coordinator, Head of Year 11, Perry Beeches School
  
  
  So What Does All Of This Cost You?
  
  Contact Jennifer McLeod directly on +44 (0)121 551 1668 or +44 (0) 845 056 3840 or email info@PositiveInspirations.co.uk for further details and a FREE 20 minute Consultation with no obligation to buy!!
  
  
  “Step Up! to the song inside of you. Following through with that thing that makes your heart sing is likely to help you find your life purpose. Then you will really have something to sing about!”
  Jennifer McLeod © 2007
  
  
  With Inspirational Blessings
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  info@PositiveInspirationS.co.uk

Jennifer McLeod Inspirational Quotes

Jennifer McLeod Inspirational Quotes




Here are some Inspirational Quotes to keep you going:


“Get Yourself out of the way so the REAL YOU can get going.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2005


“You have within you an inner guidance that always knows what you need to do. Trusting this inner guidance will set you free and help you to move the obstacles that you once considered to be mountains.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2005


“What you don’t do can create the same regrets as the mistakes you make.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2005


“Beating yourself up doesn’t make your situation any better; in fact, it only prolongs it.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2006


“When you’ve been “there” you really know it.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2006


“Set yourself up to WIN in life.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2006


“Make your word your bond. It really does matter!”
Jennifer McLeod © 2006


“When you really go for what you want in life, you are helping more people than you realise”.
Jennifer McLeod © 2006


“When you go for what you really want in life, you are helping people more than you realise.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2006


“When you ignore that little niggling feeling inside, it comes back time and time again, bigger and bigger each time until it eventually stops you in your tracks.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2006


“When you follow your heart’s desires and do that one thing that’s been niggling away inside you, it’s likely to be that one thing that will make your heart sing.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2006


“Take a leap of faith and do it. Sitting back and doing nothing does nothing for the soul”.
Jennifer McLeod © 2007

“Embrace life as if you really meant it. Treat it like a long-lost very close friend or family member. Now that you have found it, you will want to do everything possible to hold onto it, cherish it; do more for it; love it and make it better.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2007

“When you get ”there”, it is an experience like no other.”
Jennifer McLeod © 2007


“When you get “there”, it is an experience like no other. However, it is also the time to make sure that your action plans are in place to take you to your next level of “being there.” ‘
Jennifer McLeod © 2007


“Which of your characteristics or attitudes are your friends and/or family reflecting back to you?”
Jennifer McLeod © 2007


“Step Up! to the song inside of you. Following through with that thing that makes your heart sing is likely to help you find your life purpose. Then you will really have something to sing about!”
Jennifer McLeod © 2007


With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
info@PositiveInspirationS.co.uk

Easy Tiger(tm) Parent Coaching, Workshops and Consultancy

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We help Parents to have a sense of relief, regain control and become peak performance employees.

You know how challenging it can be to discipline children today or even feel confident that they are safe, which makes it difficult for some parents to keep their cool and not get frazzled, angry, frustrated or even lose control of the situation? Well, we help parents to have a sense of relief, regain control and become peak performance employees, which mean that they can bring up their children in a way that is right for them and have the peace of mind to carry on with their work.

‘When you ignore that little nagging feeling in side of you, it comes back time and time again, bigger and bigger each time until it eventually stops you in your tracks.’
Jennifer McLeod

WHO Is Our Easy Tiger™ Parenting Solutions For?

Our Easy Tiger™ Parenting Solutions is for any Parent who:

• Wants to develop greater relationship with their immediate or extended family and especially their children


• Wants to create more ‘ME’ Time’ for themselves within a busy home life and work life


• Has experienced a relationship break up situation and needs support to manage the new and existing challenges alone


• Wants to establish or re-establish boundaries within the family relationships and especially with the children.


• Wants to establish their own identity as well as being a parent


• Gets frustrated on a regular basis with their existing situation


• Is constantly drained of energy and notices that they are on a downward spiral with the current situation at home


• Needs to have peace of mind to carry on with their work and put systems in place to make key decisions and ensure that the children are safe.


• Wants less stress and more peace and happiness in their lives


• Regularly feels overwhelmed or feel that they are losing control of their home situation which may also be having an adverse impact on their work place.


• Have inner conflicts, perhaps resulting from their own childhood experiences, that might affect the decisions that they make and how to bring up their children


• Is under threat of having their children taken off them by Social Services for unusual reasons e.g. Obesity, or through other formal settings


• Wants solutions that helps them to bring up their children in the way that’s just right for them


• Has low self esteem, little confidence and needs to gain a sense of self worth and confidence to manage their home life, their children and life generally.


• Wishes to develop a greater level of authority with their children


• Wants to bring some fun and laughter into their life and family environment


• Want to develop and create an organised, smooth running home environment.


• Recognises the value that they have in making the single most important difference in their children’s lives, especially with the various distractions children and young people have in today’s society, and want to do whatever it takes to make sure of their success.


• Managers wanting to support their employees who might be experiencing parenting challenges that are affecting their work.


• Managers wanting to support parents returning to work from maternity, paternity or adoptive leave
  

Which Parents?

We work with all parents is the short answer.

Married couples, co-habitees, single parents, lone parents, unemployed parents, working parents and teenage parents and parents to be.

How Do We Do That?

We offer a range of Easy Tiger™ Parenting Solutions including:

· 1:1 Easy Tiger™ Parent Coaching
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· Written and audio products to assist you in your on-going growth
· Weekend Retreats
· Other Open life changing seminars
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‘Embrace life as if you really meant it! Treat life like a long last friend or family member. Now that you have found it, you will want to do everything possible to hold onto it, cherish it, do more for it, love it and make it better.’
Jennifer McLeod

Benefits Of You Using Our Service includes:

• Our Unique, highly successful Easy Tiger™ Parenting Models for adults and teenage parents, together with our 21 Day Parent Coaching Model


• After Service support systems and structures


• Personal, individual, 1:1 service to meet your own specific parenting needs


• Opportunity to share with others and build support networks


• Easy Payment Plans


• Our Parents Solutions focuses on you as a whole person and not just on your role as a parent


• Our solutions pay for themselves!


• Our reputation is second to none!


• New Life! New Freedom! New You!

Testimonials

Our successful Easy Tiger™ Parenting model has helped people in different ways to have their breakthroughs and take control of their life. Don’t just take our word for it,
Here’s what some people have to say about our services:

‘I was tired and feeling anxious about my exams and didn’t feel very confident that I would pass. I really wanted to make sure that I passed them this time, especially because my employer is paying for my studies, and it also means that I will be able to move on to the next level. After working with Jennifer, I felt totally confident in my ability to pass my exams and most importantly I had the energy that I need to do my revision as well as still go to work.

The knock on effect is that my daughter won’t need to be worried now about waking me up or me staying awake long enough to get my revision done’.
Sue Ranger, Supervisor, Birmingham City Council

“I was stuck in limbo not knowing what to do with a dysfunctional relationship which was affecting all areas of my life and making concentrating at work very difficult, even though I love my job. After our sessions I felt empowered enough to take steps to end the relationship. Since then my performance has improved greatly and I feel more settled and happy. Sleeping at night is easier and therefore getting up for work is no longer the great struggle it was.” This is the best training they have ever given me. If only more employers would offer this there would be lot less sick days, less stress… ”
Julia Chance, Advantage West Midlands


So what does all of this Cost You?

Our prices range from as little as £227 per month. Contact Jennifer McLeod directly on +44 (0)121 551 1668 or info@PositiveInspirations.co.uk for further details and a FREE 20 minute Consultation with no obligation to buy!!

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5 Things to Look For When YOU Approach a Company That Offers Parenting Solutions:

5 Things to Look For When YOU Approach a Company That Offers Parenting Solutions:

Sometimes it can be difficult to make the right choice when choosing a service or product from an unknown company, especially when you have your family's interest at heart. The best way is always to test out the company and see if it is the right one for you by asking them a range of questions. If it feels right, then it probably is the right company for you to work with.

Just to help you along the way, here are 5 Things to look out for when you approach a company that offers parenting solutions:

1. Do they have a Long lasting parenting model for success?
2. Do they offer After Service Support Systems?
3. Do they Enable you to establish or re-establish your own identity as well as being a parent?
4. Does their their service help you to identify root causes of some of your parenting challenges and help you to eliminate them?
5. Does the service help you to take control of your life and Create the life you want?
   
   ‘When you really go for what you want, you are helping more people than you realise.’
   Jennifer McLeod

Good luck and happy shopping!

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
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+44 (0) 121 551 1668

I don't have the confidence to manage my children!

I dont know about you but I have had some shaky times in the past when my confidence had let me down and especially at times when I had been stressed. It seems that it was especially at these times when the children 'must have decided' that it's 'let's play up just for mummy' time- yeaaaahhhh!!!!!!

I have two very confident boys who at times in the past, it felt like they were much stronger than I was, especially at times before, during and after my divorce. Ghastly time!!!!!!!!!!!!!

However, there may be less serious occasions in your life than a divorce or separation when you might have felt your confidence ebb away for whatever reason and it just continued on a downward spiral. Children instinctly react to changes whether these are implicit or explicit changes, as children tend to be a lot more perceptive and intuitive than perhaps adults may think or accept. My ex-husband and I didn't argue in front of our children even when things were bad just prior to the divorce, however, the fact that things were not going well between us had it's obvious affects on the children.

When children sense that something is not right, they start to play up, or act out, perhaps more as a way of protecting themselves and especially if they don't understand what it is that they are experiencing or sensing. The worst thing that a parent can do when a child asks 'What's wrong mum?' or 'What's wrong dad?', is to say 'nothing is wrong' or in effect lie to the child. If the 'lying' continues, albeit the parents good intentions of seeming to protect their child, the child will begin to internalise the 'nothing is wrong' as 'oh, maybe there's something wrong with me then! maybe I didn't sense that at all, and because mum or dad says that there is nothing wrong, it must be true!' The knock on effect of this is that children experiencing this situation are likely to grow up not trusting themselves or their instincts, which potentially could lead to them becoming introverts, or even abused in adult life.

Clearly, children don't need to know every single detail of what is wrong, and indeed the amount of information given needs to be tailored according to the child's age. However, acknowledging that they are right in some way will help your children immensely. When I first discovered that this was a better way to deal with questions that I would much rather not answer, I began by saying something like, 'I have quite a lot on my mind right now. Bear with me.'

If our confidence is letting us down, it is likely that we will go into some kind of insecurity mode which means that in order to overcome our own sense of feeling insecure, maybe inadequate, or unworthy, potentially we may then instinctively take this out on the children to compensate for what is missing in us. Taking it out on the children can happen in so many different minor and major ways, for instance, shouting at the children, slapping them, sending them to their room for something naughty that we 'perceive' that they have done or worse, physically harming them in a serious way.

The greatest gift that you can give to yourself at times like these is to acknowledge that your confidence is perhaps not as you would want it to be and to make the decision to do something about it. And then TAKE ACTION to change it! Again, the children will also benefit greatly in the positive changes in you.

Take Control of YOur Life Today


With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
www.PositiveInspirationS.co.uk Tel: +44 (0)845 056 3840

Wife Swop - The Effects on the Children

I have to say that Wife Swop is a programme that previously I didn't think deserved the time of day watching, however, my children happened to be watching it one day, not something that they normally watch, and I decided to join them, more because I wanted to spend that time just chilling out with them.

As I got into the programme, I started watching it with more curiosity and from a different, more observational perspective because of my role of working with parents and young people. My initial thought was why on earth would someone do something like that? What are people's motives for going through a process like Wife Swop , especially when they have objections to the changes and new house rules that are created as part of the process?

Generally, from the few shows that I have seen so far, there seems to be positive changes at the end of the process for both sets of families in different ways, if for no other reason, than to have more appreciation for their own real families afterwards and an insight into other people's worlds.

Examples of effects of the Wife Swop programme on the children that I have observed (given that I haven't seen that many episodes) include:

1. the episode where a wife and mother of four girls and one boy had learnt at the end of the Swop experience to let her 21 year old son take more responsibility for looking after his dog and himself, which includes getting himself out of bed. After all, he was 21 and needed to have some sense of responsibility and accountability for his own actions, learning that it was his responsibility to deal with consequences of his actions. He also had the added privilege of eating his dinner first, alongside his dad, before his mum and his four younger sisters could eat. Unfortunately, this was his mum's doing and not his dad's. I guess the knock on effect of his upbringing now is that he will be expecting his partner to always be at his beck and call because that's all he has ever been used to. His mum wanted it this way for her whole family, including her husband, because this made her feel needed!


2. Unfortunately, his sisters have been brought up to accept that it was OK for men to eat first and that they had left overs. In addition, they also believe that their role is to serve men, including rolling their cigars etc - basically be at their beck and call, and still have a job outside of the home. I don't know how many of these four girls will be strong enough and confident enough when they are older to stop her partner using her like a doormat or indeed prevent her partner abusing her in any other way, such as domestic violence. What I do know is that their mother's unhealthy neediness and insecurities has given them all alot of 'stuff' to undo and get rid of if they are to lead a healthy, positive life.


3. Another example of the effects of Wife Swop on children is the episode when family 'A' Swopped with family 'B'. Family 'A' was made up of parents who are both Councillors and three children and family 'B' was made up of parents (one of whom was a step-parent) and I think three children.


4. In family 'A', there was constant activity around the local government councillor's role, which also involved one of the daughters as well. The phone was constantly on the go and the ethos was that people 'out there' need us, so be patient and accept that we need to drop everything that we are doing to attend to their needs whenever they call. This meant that the children, all in their teens, didn't have much time with their parents, as even meal times was interrupted by phone calls.


5. In family 'B', the mother's eldest son of fifteen years, was having difficulty getting on with his step-dad. This meant that he was out often, getting into trouble with the police and hanging out with the wrong crowd. His behaviour was clearly affecting the whole family, however, his step-dad didn't seem to take much responsibility for some of his own actions either.


6. The positive outcomes for family 'A' and 'B' was that both sets of children were better off as a result of the Swop experience. The children in family 'A' had more time with their parents and the phone was switched off at a certain time in the evening. The eldest son in family 'B' had developed increased confidence because the 'Swop mum' had booked him a session in a recording studio because of his love for music.

As parents we need to become aware of what we are doing to and for ourselves as well as how our own behaviours affect our children. It takes courage to put up our hand and admit that some things in our lives are not working and that they need to be changed and we are the ones to make the changes happen.

It is possible and it can be done and I have done for myself and for the benefit of my children.

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
www.PositiveInspirationS.co.uk

Enterprising Young People

I had the pleasure of being asked to be on the Judging Panel of the Young Enterprise Strategic level Awards at Tally Ho Police Training Headquarters last week.

This is an organisation that offers Young People the opportunity to have a real life and first hand experience of setting up and running a real business whilst still at school. These companies then compete with each other on a local, regional and national level for the best company Award.

I was very impressed and surprised at the quality, level of understanding and entrepreneurship of ALL the Young People who took part in the competition.

Things have changed since my days at school and some Young People today are given fantastic opportunities to have'first hand' experiences of running a business. The Young People must liquidate and close the business before they leave school. What I would like to see is an extension of this support and guidance after Young People leave school for any Young Person who still wishes to become an entrepreneur in their own right or those wishing to develop the business that they started at school.

I happily contributed a complementary copy of my book Born To Win! to the overall winner at the Strategic Level Awards. If they use the book, it will definitely help them with their mindsets for future success in their businesses or in their lives generally. Their product is a fantastic one and I certainly would like to see them continue with the company when they leave school. It is a product that is in a niche market within the education industry. A well deserved winner!

Absolutely Amaaaazing!!!!

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
www.PositiveInspirationS.co.uk

Single Parents and Lone Parents

The government has been pretty forthright lately in its determination to get lone parents back to work as a way of reducing the unemployment figures. I think it is fantastic that lone parents get all the support that they can get to start working or go back to work at the time that is just right for them, isn't it? However, that is unlikely to be the case in reality.

There are so many things to consider in terms of getting lone parents to work, that i wonder if the government has fully thought through lone parents needs.

As a lone parent myself with two children, I know how challenging it can be to take on all the parenting responsibilities, or share some if you have a supportive ex-partner. Some lone parents may not have the support network to help with childcare outside of normal office hours or indeed during office hours; they may not be able to afford nursery fees; returning to work may undoubtedly bring about fears of having some of their benefits being taken off them and not being replaced by sufficient income from their new job, with no immediate way of filling that financial gap. In addition, there are those lone parents who may not have worked for a long period of time, which means that they may have lost a lot of confidence and the working world or business world may appear too overwhelming for them. They may need re-skilling in meaningful career paths and not just a piecemeal attempt to get them in the lowest possible level job at the lowest possible pay in the quickest possible time just as a quick fix or a 'tick box' mentality to prove that unemployment is on the decrease!

Other than very important practical things to consider in getting lone parents back to work, there are emotional and psychological challenges that need to be taken into consideration.

Who will deal with the emotional and psychological challenges that lone parents might be facing when returning to work or entering the workplace for the first time. There may be feelings of guilt, insecurity, fear, anxiety, low self esteem or a lone parent may be someone who is harming themselves on a regular basis. Additionally, what about the emotional and psychological baggage that people bring with them from childhood that are amplified in adulthood? Who will help some lone parents to get rid of some of these potentially detrimential baggage and Emotional Roadblocks(tm) that could be stopping them working in the first place or not being as an effective parent as they would like to be?

And what about possible parenting challenges with either young children or teenagers? If these challenges are not dealt with, they could also affect the lone parents and single parents ability to perform well in their job and potentially affect team morale.

Some people need more support than others to move on in their lives. Just looking at one aspect of a person's life, such as employment/unemployment is not the most useful way to help people move on in life.

With Inspirational Blessings
Jennifer McLeod
www.PositiveInspirationS.co.uk